One of the most common questions from soon-to-be divorcees is “Is it alright if I start dating again?” To be honest, the simple answer should always be: “Not until your divorce is final.”
However, life is often complicated. People experiencing divorce often feel lonely or frustrating, wishing to meet someone new and feel desirable again.
If you are interested in dating before your divorce is finalized, consider the following questions:
- Have you physically separated from your spouse? If you and your spouse still live in the same home, bringing over someone new. Even if you and your spouse agree that the marriage is over, dating before the divorce is finalized could be cited as a reason the marriage failed and could affect the outcome of the final agreement.
- Do you have children? If you have kids, going through a divorce may not be the right time for them to be meeting anyone. They still need to grieve the loss of the family unit, and bringing someone new into the picture can have a negative impact on how they deal with the divorce.
- Are you and your spouse battling over money? If you get seriously involved with someone else, your spouse can use this against you as leverage. For example, if you end up cohabitating with someone other than the other party, then your spouse can argue that your bills are lowered, which means more money can be provided for alimony.
- Are you distraught over the split? If you feel hurt about the entire situation, finding someone to soothe your pain is not a good idea. A relationship like this is a recipe for disaster. Answer this question, are you reading to fully commit to someone else right now?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then it is wise to wait until your divorce is over to start dating again. Once the agreement is finalized, perhaps you will feel more ready to give love another shot.